Letter to a Relationship: say the things that went unsaid
Reviewed By
Munet Samra - Psychotherapist, MBABCP, 10+ years in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Sometimes, important things go unsaid in relationships. Perhaps because they end suddenly or it feels too difficult or risky to be completely honest. Over time, unspoken feelings can build up, leading to resentment or hurt. Writing a letter you’ll never send is a helpful way to explore and process these emotions.
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What does the Letter To A Relationship Journal cover?
- Who the letter is for
- What you want the letter to achieve
- Anything that went unsaid, whether the relationship has ended or continues
- The letter itself, written freely and never sent
Who is this Letter To A Relationship Journal for?
Helpful if you:
💔 Have unfinished feelings about a past or current relationship
🤐 Left important things unsaid
✍️ Process emotions better by writing them down
For therapists:
Assign Letter to a Relationship in grief, relationship or unfinished business work. Read the letter before the next session and use it to explore the emotions it surfaced. Fully HIPAA and GDPR compliant.
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Frequently asked questions
What is an unsent letter?
A letter you write to someone as if you were going to send it, saying everything that has gone unsaid, and then keep. It is a long-established therapeutic technique for processing feelings about a relationship, whether it has ended, changed or continues. Writing without an audience allows complete honesty.
Who should I write to?
Anyone you have unfinished feelings about: a former partner, a family member, a friend, someone who has died, or someone you are still in a relationship with but cannot say certain things to. The journal asks who the letter is for and what you want it to achieve before you begin.
Should I actually send it?
The exercise is designed for letters you will not send, which is what makes the honesty possible. Some people later choose to write a different, considered version to send, but decide that afterwards and ideally with support. The unsent letter is for you.
Can my therapist assign this journal?
Yes. Therapists on Offload can assign Letter to a Relationship in grief, relationship or unfinished business work, read the letter before the next session and use it to explore what it surfaced. Your responses are available for them to review beforehand. Fully HIPAA and GDPR compliant.
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